I’m going to try to say SURE! more often!
Thursday, September 01, 2016 7:58 PM
I want to be MORE of a positive player on my team, to my family, to my company, to my friends. HOW can I do this? I’m going to try a new trick!
I‘m part of a fantastic and hugely supportive team at work. Sometimes, unfortunately, I feel like I’m not giving back what I should. I can’t help but feel like I’m still the FNG (translation…uh…NSFW). Maybe it’s just my “radar” going a bit haywire? Maybe it’s my wrong perception, maybe I’m reading signals wrong, or maybe it’s just all in my head? But I want to give back more. I don’t want to be the “Negative Ninny.” I don’t want to be the person in the meeting finding all the faults in everyone’s brainstorming ideas. I want to be the supportive, positive one. My family and my team at work are all so supportive.
In the past, I’ve read blogs, magazines, newspaper articles talking about “find ways to say YES!” I’ve tried that, but my primary instinct, unfortunately, is to try to find problems, dangers, “hiccups” or “gotchas!” That usually translates to a big, fat, boring and very negative, NO!
SO! How to change that? I’m going to try something out! Instead of FIGHTING the “no” instinct with yes, I’m going to work around it! I’m going to try “SURE!”
What’s the big deal, it’s just a word. Right? Well, in my head, it’s something that’s different from “no.” SURE puts “you and me” together as a team. I like teams! I played hockey, soccer, lacrosse, rugby, team sports most of my life. I like teams, we all succeed or we all fail together. But most importantly, we’re together, a team, as one! I can do THAT! I can back you while I know you can back me! I always talk about how “NOBODY touches my goalie!” Into my adult hockey, ANYONE touching my goalie…well, there are a few NSFW stories there too.
I’m not sure how it’ll work out? I’m going to try it out though. I tried it recently and I felt better reacting to my family and tried a couple times this week at work. I’ll report back here later. Until then, time to grab a coffee and get coding!
Google: Search for “psychology find way to say yes kids children”